I, Jonathan Bain, reject every aspect of the divorce summons as it is one in a long list of frauds and crimes perpetuated by Pauline's father: David Herbst. Any agreement by her should be seen in the context of her father being someone without any moral fibre, ethical reasoning ability, or in fact very much intelligence and common sense. Ask her again once he has been behind bars for a year. She will lie to protect him. She is a loyal daughter. She would probably even die for him. She has a backbone, unlike him. I will prove this. But anyone who knows him, will not need proof.

I know she loves me. Yet has been told she is not allowed to. And she knows what will happen to me if she disobeys him. I would give everything I own, to have her back. But that would not help, because the right thing has to be done for everyone, Dave too. Although he has made me angry beyond compare, I offer him no malice at all. Just an opportunity to get out of the hole he has dug them all into. But for that to happen, the truth must be told. I have to be an optimist because the truth is all I have.

If fate would have it, that she is in such fear, that she will never see me again. If most of the worst of what I say here is not even true, just a fabrication of her tortured mind. Or, even a fabrication of only my tortured mind, or both, then, the New Zealand venture is still an act of fraud that is without doubt provable.

So let me begin with the undeniable facts. The raw financial loss of this endevour.

Owed to me:

Half fiat Uno: R2500 (supposed to have been sold end of June)
Laptop: R7000 (replacement)
Rent Deposit R2500 (supposed to have recoverd March)
Rent March-July R8000 (since alleged 'seperation')
Monitor & Speakers R2000 (supposed to have been sold end of June)
Owed for Student loan loan R1000 (2002)
Borrowed for 'consultant' R2500 (In lieu of returning to Africa in March)

SUB-TOTAL a): R25 500

CD: ASUS AGP V38 Value R12000 (replacement or the original CD)

This sub-total consists of what is mine in New Zealand. In addition, the New Zealand venture was entirely fraudulent from beginning to end, and was in complete disregard of the social contract of our marriage. In fact the last 2 years have been for me one long endurance, of lies, manipulation, illegal acts beyond number, and most importantly, considerable acts of coercion, threat, hate-speech, and attempted corruption, all of which the prime motivator was most likely Pauline's father: David Herbst.

There are therefore additional costs that I have had to bear, based on this complete disregard for any vague sense of ethics, or even common sense by her father's threatening manipulation.

I hold Pauline responsible for none of this, as she is a little person, incapable of saying no to an overbearing father with a known violent history. Although she has suffered much in her life, I have never known her to show any grudge toward anyone. She is without malice. She is a stronger and better person than I, even if she has done worse things than I.

If she is without feeling to me. No hatred at all. Just silence, then I also allege that the entire marriage was possibly also an act of fraud, with the prime intention of getting me to steal vast somes of money from my work as a financial computer programmer. Arranged in advance by Father and Daughter.

The entire New Zealand escapade was certainly an act of fraud, riddled from beginning to end in lies, corruption, theft, manipulation, coercion, and that is only the parts that I noticed. Who knows what fire really burns at the bottom of this vast cloud of dirty smoke.

The divorce claim is thus:

5.1 The parties are separated on 12 March 2004 and have lived separated since that date.

Answer... False:

We had an agreement that she would come back to South Africa before our 4th anniversary (1 July). She had therefore been using my money to pay for half the rent in New Zealand until after 1 July. This is not an act of "separation" in the marital sense.

Dave coerced Pauline to break her promise to come back to Africa with me in March 2004, (she lost her airline ticket as a result - she has NEVER EVER given up an opportunity to travel EVER since i have known her: 9 years. She lives for travelling.) Then he coerced her to break the promise of returning to Africa if no immigration was cleared by end of June.

Initially in 2003, the agreement was to stay for 3 months "to see". This was the first time that her promise of us returning was broken by her Father. The reason given was essentially racist. When I suggested we tour China instead, they could give no good reason why this was a problem. Again She made a Promise to return after 6 months (September), then November 2003, she demanded to spend Christmas with her family, and we would leave January 2004, same in February. In March we saw the consultant, I lent her R2000 to pay the snake on condition she promised to use her airline ticket which expired in March 2004. One year after our arrival. With tears in her eyes she told me she was not coming back with me. I could not argue.

As you can see the lawyer purposefully used the word 'separated' in a deliberately ambiguous sense to imply that our love had ended at this point. I would charge that he is deliberately trying to defeat the ends of justice by doing this. If he is doing so because Dave Herbst has lied to him, or she has lied to him. I cannot blame him. We all know how he feels. Someone please show him the movie "Devil's Advocate"

"...have lived separated..." is not grammatical, and so therefore cannot be legal, or anything more than deliberate ambiguity, and I will stake my entire academic record, with distinctions in linguistics, psychology, and the philosophy of ethics, on this claim.

"The parties are separated on the 12th..." is not grammatical either. For the second time ambiguity around the word "separated". Once is a mistake. As this is Dave's lawyer, not Pauline's of course, I reject its authenticity completely.

Nonetheless, I shall continue...

5.2 She wants to stay in NZ, i want to stay in SA.
Answer... False:

Her father will not let her come back to South Africa. I was prepared to live in NZ, but as the whole escapade was a complete crock of lies, theft and total nonsense, I would rather never see New Zealand again. Perhaps after a ethical shake-up. Pitcairn islands on a bugger scale.

Dave has been using emotional blackmail to force his daughter to work illegally for the last two years, so she is not in any sense 'living' in New Zealand, She is a tourist, who has had her visa extended well beyond what we were told would happen, by the lying and corrupt and racist New Zealand government, who have not deported her because she is a very attractive white girl who they can make whore-tax off at a very profitable rate by frustrating her attempts to get viable legal employment while she is under threat from her student loan. How many other white South African girls are whoring themselves 'down under' to protect their parents ill-gotten gains?

And the Eastern Europeans too? Asians? Zimbabweans? Full of it.

A 'consultant' is being paid thousands to stamp a few passport books. He is an ex-immigration employee. Here in Africa we are honest, and call it a bribe, its illegal. In New Zealand, its a 'consultant'. Its legal.

I also allege that her father would be allowed to stay despite all his crimes, if he could coerce her to get rid of incorruptible me. He is the worst misogynist I have ever encountered. To sell your own daughter as a whore to save your own crooked backside?

I have LITERALLY been vomiting ALL DAY at the thought. Excuse me. I have to go puke again.

Honestly, I have been physically puking at the thought of it all. And you must see the pretty new churches! With flashing neon lights! No brothels allowed within 2 blocks of a church. A New, New Zealand law.

5.3 She has lost love and affection for me.
Answer... False:

She has lost love and affection for everyone and everything because her father murdered her beloved grandfather, in a fit of jealously and greed. He stole the inheritance while on the run for avoiding his taxes too! And now he is hiding in New Zealand, behind the name and the skirts of his new wife.

It fits the pattern. Dave's own grandfather was a nazi, as is Dave, but Charles never was. Pauline's grandmother could possibly also have died of mysterious circumstances, as her condition appeared to me like poisoning.

When I said to Dave that she seemed sane half the time, then deranged the other half, he said:
"If I ever get like any of those two, do me a favour, put me out of my misery."

At this point Charles was of completely sane mind, although physically a bit unfit. I'll stake my entire university qualification on that as well. Charles' mind was clear as a whistle when Dave said that. Dave refused to discuss it. Let alone even discuss visiting them.

I initially did not believe Pauline when she told me that they were murdered. That must have killed any respect she had for me. I did not believe her because she did not blame Dave. She blamed someone else, who I knew was not a killer.

That’s why I said to her "You are just traumatised. People die." She never forgave me for not believing her. That was my mistake. I have cried for days for that.

Dave also has destroyed our marriage, out of jealousy and the inability to corrupt me into a racist misogynist lying cheating murdering wancer like him. Thank God. He promised me a work permit then tried to coerce me into working illegally on his construction site, because no one will work for him over there, because no one in New Zealand is desperate enough to put up with his racist, sexist, foul-mouthed small-minded insults.

How can she say she has lost love for me (via Dad and lawyer), and yet claim that "the love is there - we just want different things" when speaking to me. ??

She also told me that this is not a matter of right and wrong. She is numb to the pain.
Surely marriage is the very foundation of what is right?
Surely its breakdown is the breakdown of society itself? The root of our problems?
The quintessential essence of what is fundamentally wrong with society is that it spends more time and money on prostitution than anything else. Every whore is somebody's daughter. Someone's mother. Have a look at the internet sometime.

She is some young guy's first time lover, you dirty bunch of cowardly Fcuking wancers.

Pauline has never expressed any hatred or anger at me since we first discussed the possibility of divorce. The divorce paper was sent because I told Dave I would turn him in if he didn’t start returning some of the cash owed to me. Thus it was sent as a result of my threat to him. No action on her part. And if it did, it was coercion. Emotional blackmail, physical threat.

The additional costs are as follows:

Promise of work permit (Flight) Value R12000
Promise of 3 month stay extended to July 2003, September, November, January, February, March, and the end of June 2004
Value R48000
Each promise was "If immigration is not sorted out by that date, we will return to Africa."

SUB-TOTAL b): R60 000

As far as I can tell a marriage is a social contract, based on the keeping of promises. It has been violated so much, that the only love I have left for her is that of honourable love one has for a neighbour that is doing a terrible thing and the realisation that if you ignore it, it will get worse. In addition, Pauline's property has been looked after by my family for the last 2 years. He initially promised to send for it and pay for it to be shipped. He again broke this promise in August after the idea of divorce was first broached, and her stuff was "in your way" - his words. A person who has boxes and boxes of sentimental photography, her life’s treasures, does not want nothing back from me. I live surrounded by her belongings and her life. The divorce says she wants none of it. I cannot believe that is true at all.

Storage... Michael, 1 year Value R2400
Sixth Avenue Value R1000
1 Poseidon (20 weeks and counting) Value R6000

SUB-TOTAL c): R9 400

In additon, as a result of all this lying, coercion and cheating I have suffered a series of nervous breakdowns. These are impossible to quantify financially, but my work has certainly suffered as a result.

Nervous breakdown #1:
Undermining all my efforts to provide for her, refusing to acknowledge any of my domestic contribution, making breakfast and supper for her every day, cleaning after it, as well as paying for most of her extra expenses as well as about half of her daily living, as well as domestic servant once or twice a week. She considered my work for the municipality as 'not good enough'. Whilst living off of it. This was because my pay had been cut in half for the second time. Africa was never going to be good enough for her. "Are you going to be a municipal worker in PE for the rest of your life?"

Nervous breakdown #2:
From intense psycho-physical-sexual abuse, emotional blackmail, "swaart gevaar" tactics, about affirmative action, racist comments about the Michelle Cox case. (All inspired by her father) And yelling at me all day things like I must "hit her like all men hit all woman". When I am not moved, and point out that it was white racism that caused all of the above. Again I am called domineering and cheap because I say I cannot afford to go to New Zealand even to visit.

Again "go on why not just hit me, prove you are a man who dominates me and decides my life for me. I am just a breeder to you, just your property."

This culminated in one (1) gentle slap to the face from me, with my eyes closed, during a particularly loud and close tirade, less than 1 inch from my face. As a result I received hundreds of beatings, slaps, threats of law-suits, divorce, sexual taunting and days of "cold silence" followed by many temper tantrums, resulting in

Nervous Breakdown #3:
I phone my parents and ask them to please take me away as she has not stopped screaming and shouting at me for weeks. My parents calm it down, but by this stage I am broken.

Eventually I agree to try New Zealand.
Everything went back to 'normal' until New Zealand.

Nervous Breakdown #4
Was a result of my pay being reduced to half for the third time (2003), just 3 months after I had been given my first raise since beginning work in 1998.

(The raise was 20% on the hourly rate, my hours per month were cut in half which is technically a 40% reduction in net earnings per month.) Not initially her fault. But she used this against me as an excuse to try and fill my mind with racist hate speech. As did Dave and Karen. I am told by her "Your opinions don't count - you don't have an opinion" when I say "Please acknowledge my point of view at least, even if you do not agree with it." I was pointing out the reason given for the reduction in salary was that I was not in South Africa at the time, and was probably considered to be at risk of not completing my project. Again, the long stay in New Zealand, was a result of all the lies and deceit and broken promises, all precipitated by her father, David Herbst.

There is the possiblity that I was scammed from the beginning, under the coercion of her father, in which case I cannot blame her, as he is a forceful bully who has no sense of right and wrong, (see "this is not a matter of right and wrong" -earlier)

Both Dave and Karen at different times tried to convince me to take part in moving money out of South Africa illegally. And that I should rob Mandela Metro of its electricity takings, and put it in Pauline and my joint bank account. When I asked why I was being coerced into this joint bank account when we already had a joint one, and an individual one each, I was told by Dave "In case one of you dies, then there are no legal problems."

Pauline was later told to open yet another bank account to use for her earnings as an illegal worker. My earnings as well as my inheritance were to be moved into the joint account. I resisted all efforts to do this.

And there were many requests and they were very insistent. Dave, Karen and Pauline tried to convince me that it was to do with the economy, despite the Rand outperforming the NZ dollar. They also tried to tell me that the NZ economy was bigger than South Africa's. They kept insisting this even though I showed them newspaper articles and websites in flat contradiction. Dave kept imagining that the Rand was sliding, even though it performed better against the dollar than any other currency that year in the whole world.

Scammed marriage:

2 years of half-keeping her Value R24000
Honeymoon Value R40000

SUB-TOTAL
R64 000

I was in total forced through emotional blackmail (end of marriage) to be party to the following crimes:
I must again point out, she was black-mailing me in response to similar psychological pressure from her father.

1. Smuggling of cash
Pauline was coerced by her family to smuggle an undisclosed sum of cash into New Zealand for him. This was to help her "Uncle" - John.

2. Illegal work
Pauline has been coerced to work illegally by her father at various menial jobs for the last 2 years.

3. Irregular passport renewel.
On a 'regular' basis, via a well-paid 'consultant' who also happened to reside next door to the place Pauline 'luckily' obtained a job offer. A completely 'unconnected' event, I am expected to believe. Ha!

4. Offer of illegal labour
I was expected to work as a labourer on Dave's construction site.

5. Assault
Dave Assaulted Bryan and threw him out the house, then made him apologise to be let in again. All because he asked Dave quietly to not use crude language at his mother and sister. Bryan told me this.

6. Hate speech
An incessant tirade thereof, most of it at invisible Africans. Both Karen and Dave.

7. Buying jobs
On hold advertising. See comment about 'consultant'.

8. Buying jobs
Jeff Bain-Jarmen (gave me the name of someone called 'Sharwood' or 'Sherwood'). A South African who 'helps other South Africans get jobs and work permits'. Some old school friend.

9. Murder x2
Details as above.

10. Fraud.
My whole New Zealand experience.

11. Gross racism, complete cynical manipulation of 'immigrants' for material advantage, corruption and sex slavery:
The New Zealand immigration department.

12. Being the worst Father-in-law i could possibly ever have imagined:
Dave Herbst.

This reply to the divorce I consider to be in no way confidential.
Gossip freely.

All my love,
Jonathan Bain
24 November 2004